Learning Mindful Self Compassion

Mindful Self Compassion Helps You Live a Better Life

If you learn to have compassion for yourself, it means that you treat yourself kindly despite the times when you feel down upon yourself. Mindful self compassion means that you foster thoughts that make it easier to be your best self while treating yourself well.

Self compassion is a struggle for some people because they have a reel that plays in their head that constantly berates them, telling them how they failed or how that they’re not worthy.

For others, it’s a struggle because they may have had situations from their childhood years where others who should have been kind to them, were not. Many people that have been abused as children for instance. However, it’s never too late to learn self compassion and how to apply it to your life.

  • When you practice mindful self compassion, it means that you put a stop to that negative talk inside your mind that you let beat yourself up.
  • It also means that you treat yourself kindly in your day to day living.
  • You stop doing things that are detrimental to your physical health or to your emotional health.
  • Some of the things that self compassion may help you to let go of is working to much, unhealthy eating habits, giving in to stress and putting up with relationships that aren’t good for you.

Learning mindful self compassion allows you to see your faults, but not dwell on them. It allows you to recognize that you’re human and enables you to let go of past mistakes that you still hold over your own head. Whether you have a learning disorder or a physical disability, you can learn to love yourself.

Not only will you learn how to treat yourself kindly and lovingly, but you’ll be able to do the same toward others. When you understand self compassion, it can help you be able to bring emotions under control.

This will let you stop allowing stress to push you toward anxiety or sadness or frustration. It will also help you be able to react to things without blaming yourself. You’ll learn how to treat yourself with respect and how to encourage yourself rather than shaming who you are or things you’ve done.

Learning how to use mindfulness to find self compassion doesn’t meant that you believe you have no faults. It means that you don’t call yourself names, you don’t think of yourself as a bad person.

You just love yourself as is, faults and all. For people who have trouble grasping the concept of self compassion, think of the way that you treat the people that you really love.

You treat them kindly. You show understanding for their faults and you let it go when they let you down. That’s the same way that you need to treat yourself – like a trusted and valued person that you love and want good things for.

Learning Problems In Kids

Learning Problems In Kids

Understanding Learning Problems In Kids Early Years

Sometimes children have difficulties with wanting to learn things and we see a real learning problem in kids at a young age. This is where structured learning can be great for a child as it is important for your child’s learning development. It is a great way for your child to get the most learning done in the fewest possible years, and it also makes sure your child covers all the bases in learning while still in their infancy.

Learning Problems In Kids

Learning Problems In Kids

There is however, something about learning skills set to structured expectations, that often turns a child’s mind off – psychologically speaking, as it sets up an obstacle to their learning.

There is so much that goes on in a child’s life with friends, things to look forward to, things that disappoint etc.

To a young child all of it can seem so much more important than the monotonous  learning that occurs everyday at school or at home. Many kids find things totally irrelevant and boring. Personally, I felt like it myself with many things.

Learning Development Problems

In a child, emotions create all kinds of learning problems that the child needs to combat. In more scientific terms, parents need to find a way to turn the limbic system of the child’s brain – the part that releases hormones appropriate to happy or unhappy situations – to the child’s advantage. We often hear how children have learning problems because of possible ADHD symptoms for example, where they lack focus.

Let’s get started with how to get the best out of your child’s limbic system. The first thing to do would be to help the child banish most negative emotions, anger, fear, anxiety, that get in the way. These turn the learning problems on in your child’s brain. This kind of behavior is actually called the learning switch – to use a terminology coined phrase by the famous expert on learning, Priscilla Vail.

If your child’s life seems to be far too much  about schoolwork, show your child how performing well, while important, isn’t nearly as great as putting in honest effort.

  • Success breeds success; the more you help your child be successful, the better they will feel about themself and the more they will have the confidence that their dreams are possible. Give your child activities that they can succeed at without the pressure that school comes with – and give them the success that they can use to invest for greater success.
  • Anger can really empower a child to act with strength when needed. It can also really create learning problems when a child has no idea what to do with the anger they feel for a situation. For example, parents getting divorced, anger at not doing well at a game, anger at a romantic relationship that isn’t going well etc. Help your child directly address the thing that’s bothering them to make the situation better. Once your child learns that anger at an unsatisfying situation is always rectifiable – the child can find tools to address every one of the learning problems that anger can engender – deliberate failure, daydreaming, an inability to concentrate among others.

All kinds of emotions that affect learning, manifest themselves as procrastination. The moment you find that a child is putting off schoolwork that seems to be really important, you know that it’s one of these notions that is getting in their way. Learning problems such as these are always easily fixed teaching the child a few essential life skills.

Have you had learning problems with your child?